This was a wonderful question and also an eye opening one too. I was surprised to find that my 7 year old had these type of thoughts. I knew that things were hard for him and he wished his brother never had this disorder, but I never thought about how he saw himself fitting into the world.
His question is one I understand very much. For me, seeking support started with finding other moms just like me, so I could find comfort in knowing that I wasn’t alone. So, I guess I shouldn’t be surprised that he would have these feelings too.
With a hug and heart-to-heart talk, I was able to reassure him that he wasn’t alone, sharing that there were many other families just like ours. I also told him that if he was ever interested, I would seek out a support group with kids just like him, so he could talk with them about his experience. He thought that was pretty cool and decided maybe he would someday when he was older, but for now, he was already feeling better after talking with me.
This moment was a good reminder that everyone in our family may need support, but since I haven’t crossed this bridge yet, it got me thinking about what many of you do to help your other children. Please share with us, for when the time is right, I want to be able to do everything I can.