Just last night my son said that it was getting easier to handle moments of anger. On several occasions I’ve found him off in a room by himself relaxing and watching tv quietly. When I asked him what he was up to, he said that he needed to go to a quiet place and distract his brain since his moods kept changing on him from happy to sad to angry. I saw this as huge progress. When he was younger and his moods were cycling, he would feel so bad inside that he exploded on all of us, now it seems that he’s getting a better sense of what’s happening to him and is taking steps to help himself feel better.
We’ve also been using a therapy technique of calling out his mood swings so he can recognize it in the moment. He calls his anger “The Governor”, so whenever he starts to become irritable and defiant due to his mood swings, we just remind him that he’s listening to The Governor and remind him that his brain is making mistakes. More than once we’ve been able to calm him back down or have him agree to go to a place alone to calm himself back down. This is a big step.
As for getting to sleep at night, we’ve seen a handful of nights that he complains of feeling tired for bed, but his brain has too much energy and won’t let him sleep. So on these nights, he gets free reign to do what he needs to do to help him sleep. Just last night I gave him a head massage and he was out like a light.
In school, I’ve started to notice that when his moods are off, he complains of being teased more at school and kids bother him more. I wonder how much is truth and how much is his perception of things when his moods are off. Anyone observe this with their own kids?
It’s been 15 days since our last episode of rage, it’s funny that once things calm down, it seems like 15 days was 2 months ago, I had to count the days in our chart twice since I was sure that it was much longer. I just think that a little peace and stability in our home goes a long way.