Since my youngest was 3 years old, he’s witnessed a lot of violent rages from his older brother. Overtime, this has created an unhealthy dose of anxiety in him. I can’t even count the number of times I’ve seen my little one scream with great fright, while covering his eyes, trying to block out the scary stuff he’s seeing.
As a playmate, he’s also had a lot of moments turn bad when his oldest brother takes charge and becomes unfriendly or has destroyed his personal stuff. As a result, my little one has mastered the art of walking on egg shells and tends to overreact to small stuff since he’s always prepared for the worst to happen.
Just yesterday my oldest was becoming mildly upset when it was time for him to be sunscreened (it’s a sensory issue for him). As he started to raise his voice in objection, my little one screamed, “OH NO!!! I don’t like it when he gets angry!” as he stormed out of the room with fright.
My son seemed to recognize, maybe for the first time, the impact he has on his little brother and decided right then to do something about it. Within 15 minutes, we were at the pool where my oldest took my little one under his wing and for the next hour, poured into him with love and tenderness.
When I mentioned how pleased I was too see him being so kind to his little brother, my son replied, “I want to try real hard to be nice to him so that he won’t be afraid of me anymore and to help give us a better future.”
Melt my heart...