Happy Friday Everyone! If you’ve been following my blog this week, you’ll recall that I’ve been sharing the book, Raising Stephen: One Day at a Time. In my previous post, I interviewed Stephen’s sister, Traci. Today, I’m so excited to share with you an up close and personal interview with the author of this book, Tami Lyn. Sit back and enjoy this post and at the end, please ask Tami any questions you may have in the comment section below. Tami was nice enough to agree to be available over the next week to answer your questions and hopefully you’ll walk away with more understanding and knowledge like I have.
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Hi Tami and welcome to my blog, lets start from the beginning.
What were his symptoms when he was a child?
Did his symptoms change as he got older and if so, how?
How did you learn that he had bipolar disorder and what helped the doctors reach this diagnosis?
Driving too fast and becoming promiscuous were our main concerns along with always worrying that he’d get into fights or run his mouth too much at work. He’s lost numerous jobs.
Were you afraid to try medication?
Did medication help and were you glad he took it?
What was the most challenging part of raising your son?
The next hardest was never knowing what a day would bring, what mood he’d be in, how many times the teacher would call, etc… With increase in age, these behaviors became more risky, involving others, wondering if he’d fly off the handle at school, frequent fights, suspensions, the law, etc…
Our son was always an AWESOME athlete. We’d attend every game excited to watch him use his great talents, but always a little anxious wondering if he’d go over the line with his tackles in football or using his great arm in baseball the wrong way, not to mention hearing comments from other parents in the stands. Our son had to be removed from games quite a few times for this type thing, as well as being insubordinate.
Did you face ridicule from other parents regarding his behavior and how did you deal with it?
How did you get support for yourself and family?
Did your son’s disorder ever put a strain on your marriage? If so, how did you get through it?
Were you ever scared of your son?
Did he ever physically hurt you or your husband during a rage?
How did you make the decision to call the police for assistance? How did you feel about it after they came to your home?
Were you ever worried that he might hurt himself?
How is Stephen doing today?
Now that he’s older and living his own life, what challenges do you face regarding his bipolar disorder?
How do you cope now?
What made you decide to write your book Raising Stephen: One Day at a Time?
Did everyone in the family support you writing this book?
Was it therapeutic for you to write this book?
Were there any regrets in writing it?
Reflecting on all you’ve been through in raising your son, what would you do different? What would you do again?
Always have a sense of humor.
Always remember, most of your plans will get interrupted and changed if you are living with a child with a mood disorder. Their mood tends to set the tone for your home.
Try to keep other stressors at a minimum, simplify your life in other areas, because you’ll need that respite.
What wisdom can you share with moms like me, who are still raising children in our home with mood disorders?
I would also suggest writing a journal of your thoughts and concerns, prayers, etc…
Also, seek counseling for yourself and talk to other moms with similar situations.
Have a hobby and close friends to talk to.
Remember God entrusted you, knowing you are the perfect parent for your youngster. Give him praise and thanksgiving, even in the bad times.
The good times got me through, record every one!
God bless you!
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