Throughout our meeting the therapist would stop the discussion to quiz my son about his knowledge on stuff, such as the function of the kidney, then for the next five minutes go into great detail about the kidney, another time it was a lecture about doing homework, but ending with him discussing how in the future we will be watching tv with actors in our rooms outside of tv screens. The list goes on and the minutes slowly passed. Unfortunately when we finally got to what I needed to talk about, we were out of time and my son was terribly bored. I can understand that he may have been trying to connect with my son and make sure that he understood what we were discussing, but for our preferences he spent too much time talking about stuff we don’t care about.
What also bothered me was that he expected my son to just sit still on a couch, facing him and just listen. This seemed to be torture for my son, at least he could have let him build legos or color, he had the supplies around him, but it was off limits to my son. It was also annoying that he started to scold my son if he tried to hold his toy he brought. I think he would’ve had a better response from my son if my son could’ve actively done something while they talked. Our old psychiatrist was great about this. Usually he would play catch with my son while they talked, it was a great way to get my son to feel relaxed and willing to participate.
So at the end of the appointment, my son and I left feeling disappointed but we’re willing to give it another shot when we meet next week and he reveals his plans for us on how to help with homework triggers, explosive behavior and discipline. In the meantime, I’ll be keeping my eye open for someone else if this doesn’t work out. I have to say, I really miss our old therapist, we had a good thing going.