The author shares in the interview how he was interested in meeting the parents to see if it explained what had happened and if he could detect what was off in their household. But what he found instead were loving, courageous parents who had no idea this was going to happen and if they had known, they would have done something about it.
This really struck a nerve with me. I know what I’m about to say may upset others, but I feel terribly sad for these parents. And my sadness doesn’t take anything away from all those families who lost their kids in the masssacre, I can’t imagine their pain and wished it never happened. But it feels like society doesn’t allow the parents of these killers to grieve too. I feel like society automatically blames the parents.
I appreciate in the Today interview where Soloman points out that there was a time where many conditions were blamed on the parents. For example, he shares that autism was thought to be caused by a cold mother and schizophrenia was caused by mothers who wished their children didn’t exist but Soloman explains that we have dropped all these ideas except when it comes to crimes, we still blame the parents. He shares that after spending hundreds of hours with these parents he believes they had no clue these acts could happen.
I hope this can be a message to society that we need to stop blaming parents and instead offer support and compassion, just as we do for the victim’s parents.
In this interview, Solomon shares how Klebold’s mother prayed for her son to kill himself in order to stop the killings. He did. And now she has to live with the fact that she prayed for her own son to take his life.
How does a mother do that?
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November 8, 2012
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