I responded, “Well I appreciate your apology, but I have to tell you that I felt dismissed by you in our meeting.”
The principal again said that he was sorry and that he had to keep his teachers from talking too much. Which was interesting being that the teachers barely said anything, but regardless I think he was apologizing in a round-about way after the way he treated me.
From there I jumped on the opportunity to express how I felt about a number of things. I explained that he needed to work harder at making my son feel like they have his back and are working at keeping him safe in the school.
I also pointed out how I felt the grades he received didn’t reflect his true capabilities, which the principal acknowledge saying, “Yes, I also thought something was amiss when your son had poor grades on homework but an A on the test. I asked the teachers 3 times if his grades were a true refection, but they all agreed it was.” In the end he agreed that he did need to have a talk with his teachers about this and make sure that in the future they do a better job.
At the end of the call I told him that I was angry with his final comment about my son being fine at school so the problem was at home. I explained that the school was part of the problem because his triggers were being cause by the school so it was my job to address these triggers, which meant that him, along with his staff needed to be part of the solution. He seemed to agree and came across willing to move forward in a positive direction.
I have to say, it wasn’t the best apology, but at least I had the perfect opportunity to express how disappointed I was with him and our 504 meeting and reiterate what I expected in the future.
I’m also encouraged because my son shared that the “difficult” teacher was now treating him differently in class, he’s been kinder and has been helping him more with classwork. All this started after the dreaded 504 meeting.
As my husband reminded me after the meeting, “I know that you feel like all your hard work was for nothing, but you never know what impact you may have had. Maybe he’ll think about our family and be ready to address things differently in the future or maybe one of the teachers will see our son with a new perspective and be ready to help him.”
Once again, my husband has shown that he’s a wise man.
On another note, tonight my son and I visited a charter school in the area, we’re trying to keep our options open as we carefully move forward, one step at a time.