For the clinical evaluations of language fundamentals, both the teacher and parent reports came in as being below average, but the fact that he could look at flash cards and score in the low-average range for language pragmatics was all the school needed to confirm that he did not qualify for an IEP, as they added, it appears that he has the skills, he just doesn’t always use them in real life/time situations.
The speech therapist’s observations that he keeps a distance from others at all times while moving with his class, that he behaves off task or that he had a meltdown on the playground where he announced that “This is the worst day ever!” were all dismissed under the comment that “yes he has his quirks.”
And as icing on the cake, the principal urged me that there was no real reason to create a 504 plan since we can make accommodations as we go and that 504s weren’t really necessary.
Well he has another thing coming, I will be pursuing the 504 if only for the legal protections it provides my son.
In addition, the school psychologist tried to encourage the staff to force my son to remain in the music class even if he was feeling sensory overload because in her words, “Children that have these accommodations grow up to not be ready for the real world and can’t handle everyday stress that a job would create.” I responded by saying,“My son faces stress everyday that he has to manage, just riding in the car with his brothers can be too much to bear, but he has to learn to endure it. What I want to teach my son is to be aware of his limits and remove himself from stress before he hits a girl in his class (something that he has done before), I think he has enough challenges in his day and I see no benefit in forcing him to endure unnecessary sensory overload at school.”
As the meeting came to an end, the school psychologist pulled me aside to confirm the rumors my oldest son brought home from middle school the same day, she informed me that yes, a young teacher from the middle school committed suicide the night before. Then she used this as an example of how our kids need exposure to stress so they don’t make a decision like this in their future when life gets hard.
What I think she failed to recognize is that life is already hard for our kids and removing non-essential stressors while they are young allows them the ability to learn and grow in a positive manner which will allow them to be productive individuals when they enter the “real world”. The last thing I’m worried about is that my boys aren’t facing enough challenges, I think they’ve had their fair share.
Plus, might I add, I doubt that my youngest son will choose a career where he surrounds himself with over 30 bouncing 8 year olds who are singing off-key and banging musical instruments inches from his ears.
I’m just saying...