Once again our psychiatrist encouraged us to have him hospitalized and said it would be like “jail” to him and may teach him a lesson to not act violently towards his family. He agreed that he wasn’t unstable, but thought it was besides the point and that the unpleasant experience may discourage him to act this way in the future.
My husband and I stood our ground and told him that we refused to use the hospital as punishment, instead we firmly believe that the hospital should be a place of healing. We explained that if we use it to “teach him a lesson”, it may be harder for him to use when he’s legitimately sick. If on the other hand he was raging and we couldn’t get him under control or he was seriously putting our safety at risk, we would bring him there in a heartbeat. But at this time, we can see that he has some control and isn’t taking steps to seriously harm us.
So we decided that we would come up with our own tough consequences to help him learn to control his bullying behavior towards us. We’ve witnessed his ability to stop his behavior when an outsider comes into our home and hope that this same control can be used in the future.
I want to focus on the source of his stress, specifically school. If there’s anything we can do to decrease his stress there, we can possibly eliminate the violent behavior. In addition to the continued therapy to work on coping skills. But as many of you know first hand, it’s all trial and error. I guess we’ll see what success we have and go from there.
On a positive note, my son has been a joy to be around all vacation, indicating that his moods are stable for the time being. Wish us luck as we start back to school this week.